Second post let’s do this! Since losing my mum, I’ve noticed compound grief has been building up in my emotions. I never really got a chance to grieve my dad, as I was solely focused on making sure my mum was okay. Then 6 months later my gran died. So I began the grieving process again of losing my gran and continuing to grieve my dad. Losing my mum a year later has shown that these emotions haven’t gone away even though I’ve presented ‘okay’ even though I’m not. Deep down, I’m not okay. So, with a little encouragement from my favourite person (my boyfriend), I’ve booked a counselling session to start the process of grieving properly. I’ve also decided to listen to EMDR bilateral audio to try and regulate my nervous system. It works surprisingly! I’ve decided to try and take control of my grief. I’m 30 in November and as much as I’m going to crave my mum, dad and gran and miss them beyond belief. I want to live a life they would be so beyond proud of. I need to do this for them and me! If anybody has any other tips for taking control of their grief, please let me know! ❤️